My mind created obstacles for good reasons!

I was reminded of an incredible quote this past week. 
 

"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we use to create them" Albert Einstein

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I have to say this resonated so deeply with me, as I was challenged by my own mental blocks.

Why was I not able to see past "the" situation I was encountering? why was I feeling stuck? but also, where exactly was I stuck on? and WHAT was holding me back? so many questions. 

So I did what I know would help me: I coached myself out of the situation and in doing so I was able to see some of "the light".  The problem was in this: my mind created these obstacles for a reason and they are very good reasons and as much as I was  trying to “coach myself” to have a different perspective I was still not where I knew I could be. Why? …So I called my life coach

I know I have declared this before and I shout it out again THANK YOU to MY OWN LIFE COACH!!! yes, I have a life coach. I have invested in my personal growth so much because I know the value of getting out of my head and seeing life as IT IS, not as it is happening to me!

You see even though I am trained to coach myself out of a situation I only know what I know and can only work with what I know I KNOW, you know what I mean?

My life coach was the one who challenges me to look beyond myself, to see what I cannot see and to grasp at the possibility that is unrecognizable to my own pattern of thinking. 

We all have a set of habits, rules, sayings, patterns that we have made up in order to navigate our lives.  The thing about these habits is that they make sense to us, this is why we created them.   

However, one thing we tend to forget is that old habits or patterns are made up of beliefs that can be limiting, assumptions about situations and people in the past, and they can come from a place of fear and sadness. BUT they all come from an actual experience in your life, this is why they make perfect sense.

The disconnect comes when we approach a NEW situation with an OLD pattern/Belief (created from an OLD experiences) and expect a NEW and Improved result!

In short, if we want to eat rice we cook rice. The product and results are the same.  However,  we cannot cook plain rice and expect it to taste like a Paella (Spanish rice, and seafood dish seasoned with Saffron yum!!!) This requires more ingredients and a recipe to guide us through.  OH but it's worth the work and the time spent making.

I hope you see my point! Or maybe just look into making a Paella and let me know how it turns out! If we realize that the plain rice is no longer satisfying us we need a new recipe.

Why would we need a new recipe or habits in our lives. 2 main reason:

One, we come to the realization that the habits or pattern we currently have DON'T make sense as much, or simply put , we DON’t want them anymore! and,

Secondly, we want to change something in our lives. We long for something to be different and so plain rice is no longer appetizing and we want to try something new!

The reality is simple: If we want to continue getting the same result we should continue to do what we are doing now! BUT, If you want something different and long for a change, 

A change needs to be made. 

Change is beautiful when you decide you are worth the growth. Remember you only know what you know and investing in personal development is deciding you are worth more!

yours in success,

Nadia Tenorio CPC, ELI-MP

www.ntcoachingsolutions.com





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I have learned that life has its own agenda.

Most of us have grown impatient with life. We have acquired an attitude about how we manifest things in life. I refer to this as the “on demand mindset”. What do I mean by the “on demand mindset” well its this idea that our desires have to be met immediately.

I want what I want, and we want it “right NOW… please!”

Maybe is due to the fact that now a days you decide what shows you want to watch, find it on the various media outlets and watch it instantly, there is no longer that discipline needed of having to schedule your weeknights around a t.v show line up, or Saturday morning’s cartoon. In the olden days (lol) if you missed an episode on t.v. well, you had to hear about it later and wait till re runs sometime in the near future. Today we binge watch only what we want and when we want it.

Food cravings are my favourite part of this…cause I am a foodie. We can crave something to eat and go on our phone and order it without having to leave our house and get off the couch. This is really Amazing!!!!

But things don’t stop there tho, we start a business and we want the business growth NOW, we start school and we can’t wait to have the Degree NOW, we begin dating only to find Mr. or Mrs. “right” NOW, we want the great job with the great salary NOW.

The list goes on…Its like we want our demands met as soon as we pose them. Otherwise we go somewhere else. We try something different or we feel we are not doing things the right way because its taking too long.

Have you ever felt that life is taking too long to be great? ‘when will my life start to happen?” we scream a the universe and expect to have the answer, you guessed it: NOW

Here is what I know: It takes 9 months for a baby to grow inside the womb. It takes 12 months for an anniversary to be celebrated. It takes 19 years to have your first legal drink in most provinces. The fact is everything we do takes time.

When we focus on the lack of immediate results we bring feelings of frustration, overwhelm, clutter and unhappiness to our lives. So how do we surpass this?

There are different moment in life, And we can honour each moment.

Realize that there are times when we don’t need to know everything (right this minute). There are times we don’t have to “name it” or rationalize a situation. Some times we need to trust that life is happening as it should and learning from what the situation IS more valuable than changing it. Imagine if you dated someone with the expectation that they were Mr./ Mrs Right and realize thats not the case, how powerful would you feel if you took that situation and learned from that. consciously taking those lessons to the next time? How much more confident would you feel next time?

What if you found peace with knowing that at this moment in time your job is to gather pieces of the puzzle? Pieces of wisdom.

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Be Silent, be Still. You will be surprised what will be revealed

The trick is shutting down the excess noise and unnecessary information.

How do we filter the information? Why do we keep still and indulge in learning from the moments in life.

If you make it your conscious job to listen, to be still with your thoughts, you will find that stillness show you the messages that are inside of you and reveals a path to where you want to be

Be brave enough to trust the process of life!

let keep growing

xoxo N


Start making meaningful decision in life!

Now a days there are so many distractions and finding a quiet time to focus on what you want can be challenging. So many things pulling you in every direction with social media, so much noise pollution that can therefore feel overwhelming. The constant distractions and busyness of life have left many of us feeling like we cannot escape the noise. And when we do turn our phones off and the t.v and our electronics, we fail miserably at staying still.

The quiet can be scary and intimidating because we are left to deal with our thoughts. But soon we hear the “ding” from our phones and the quiet is over! The notifications that come in are serious contenders for our attention, even when you are in the middle of a conversation. So this has me wondering…

How can one even decide what to focus on when there is no thinking time?

How can we make clear and effective decisions about life when we are constantly bombarded with distractions?

How can we find the peace and calmness we need to figure things out?

Well, here is what has helped me and hope it helps you:

  1. Prioritize: Make a list of the thing that make you happy! OH and use a pen and paper…Yes be antiquated and old fashioned. The only requirement here is that “it makes YOU happy” so things like skating, riding a pony, reading a book even talking to a unicorn are acceptable- no judgment, be real this list is for your eyes only.

  2. Explore each item on the list. Don’t make any judgment on what they are, don’t worry about what so-and-so will think, and freak out about weather or not it will actually work. Trust your instinct here and explore!

  3. Rate each item from 0 to 10. 0 representing NO joy and 10 being that which brings you the most joy!

  4. Short-list: now that each item has a number and it has some quantifiable significance, pick 1 or 3 things at the most, that have high ratings…so Pick your 10s, 9s or 8s.

  5. Clarify: So take each item on your short list and use it in a sentence.

    I want to ( insert the decision you made) When I think of myself (doing the decision made) it inspires me to ( blank) and this is what I love about me.

    So here : I want to SKATE, when I think of myself SKATING it inspires me to FEEL THE FREEDOM I CRAVE and this is what I love about me.

  6. Now ask yourself: How does this statement resonate with me? What values does this decision meet in my life? family, career, self realization?

    Why does this option make me feel JOY!

    Once you know WHY this makes you happy, you can start to explore the idea:

    How likely am I to want to make an action plan and make this happen?

  7. Direction: now that you have shortlisted, and tried it for size in a sentence you may feel the urge to act on it straight away or ponder a bit and let it simmer. Either way congratulate yourself for taking the time to be with your thoughts.

    So what then….

    See its okay if you notice hesitation! this is good, this means its important and there is a potential change in the future. The idea is, not feel that you have to conquer the world all at once! Rome was not built in one day, and it took God 7 days to create our world so really no pressure. Stay at it, keep practicing the art of prioritizing and making clear decision. it all takes time to figure out so take YOUR time.

    You have one life to live, make it what you want and bring tools into your life that will better your situation and help you achieve your goals.

    let’s keep growing!

    Nadia

    Life Coach

How do we begin to find our true passion!

Many of us are wanderers in life, we wander from school to school, job to job or relationship to relationship never actually knowing where we are going or what life is really all about.

We may feel lost, stuck or just numb by the mundane activities of life…

All the while that restlessness pulls at us and whispers in our ears sweet dreams of a happier life, of feeling satisfaction in our everyday hustle. And the questions begin to pour in, “What Am I supposed to do in life?”, “ There has to be something more than this?” sometimes the questions flood our lives and feels like an emotional inundation. The longing for some meaning, a deeper existence or just some peace appears!

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“Who looks outside, dreams; Who looks inside, awakens" - Carl Jung

Here is the thing. We all experience this inquisition at one time or another. How can we not? To believe that all there is to life is to get up and go to work, work-out and feel tired from social and professional stress, make time to procreate (if desired) its like a wash, rinse repeat cycle right? and if this is all there is, how can we be motivated and inspired to find out what makes us great?

How do we Know what we want? Its easy!

Just kidding! its not! well it can be. Lets say the questioning of our existence and the urge to want more is a good start. However, this is where most of us get stuck. And yes, Its completely NORMAL! we all do it. We can remain in this state for a long time, if we continue to swipe away the questioning and whispers, that is. The sense of restlessness comes from our inner voice talking to us. Its almost as if our soul is testing out how much “air time” you are wiling to provide. And the more you tune into the “talk” the more questions you will find.

How do we give our soul more air time?

When we start asking the right questions we begin a conversation that leads to possibilities. This requires a decluttering of information from the brain. Exploring and organization of files we have in our brains. When we take the files that make us feel good or simply classifying them as once that have had a positive impact on our lives we feel a sense of connection to what we did and a sense of accomplishment. Why is that? when we feel happiness its like we make a connection to the soul!

How to connect to our Passion

When we have a genuine connection through a service we provided, a skill we shared or a situation that lifted us, we experience a feeling of alignment with who we.Thus connection ours Soul and brain with life. We get a sense of who we truly are because we feel as if that experience had meaning and PURPOSE. We see love and passion manifest itself thorough us with purpose. And gain insight to be able to create that feeling over and over again in our lives. How can you do it?

You can do it. You were born to do it

You have in you the years of experience that give you the knowledge to organize, declutter and begin to uncover the passion and purpose in life. The important thing is to continue to explore and gain the confidence you need to manifest it all! As I always say, this is not a sprint but a marathon!

with love,

Nadia